And just when I thought it would be easy to write down everything that would explain ho much I love Lauren. The pen hovers the page and I'm frozen.... I'm nervous and can't seem to zone into one fact, reason or objective which allows me to convey so much. I'm thinking, I could go at this from a narrative stand point. Poetic, Limerick, Haiku, Sonnet, or Mad-lib. Then I realized, I can put all the reasons down as they cross my mind.
Then I realized the next bit would be what I'm Vowing to my future bride. Then I'm thinking, again, before pen meets pad... What has everyone vowed their bride? Always being there wall to lean on. Always bring home the bacon (We're vegetarians so Eggplant is probably the best way to go). To be there through thick to thin? Or till death do us part? Hmm..... What is something that douche bag from "The Notebook" never said? Noah, you're the bane to my existence right now. Then I realized, three months ago to just say fuck it. Not like, "Fuck it" I don't care. "Fuck it" in the sense there's a standard which everyone has an objective point to feel what they thing a VOW should be. So, I replaced the word VOW with PROMISE.
Here's the part where I realized a Promise is a lot easier to make. Especially when they're things I know I can do. I know I can't set myself up for failure. Examples: A lot of guys tell me after 3 months, 6 months nearly a year later, 'Sean, she's changed.' I have to stop these guys sometimes and ask the question: "What did you do when you first started dating?" My favorite answer and best example I've had and use time and time again is, "I bought her flowers every time we had a month anniversary." My follow up is, "Do you do it still?" Then the guy tells me, "Well, after six months you'd think it would get old." WRONG!!!! It's become a habit to your relationship, good job! Point is, you made a promise to buy flowers every month and you conveniently fucked it away. Good job.
I'm sitting here thinking about VOWS or Promises I mean to keep for my marriage. I've thought of a few things and some of them are hilarious and yet thoughtful because I don't think anyone would get it unless they knew us. Convenient to us, Lauren and I only invited our family and friends. ^_^
I'd also like to say I have NO IDEA how long Lauren's Vows are. I figure 3 mins tops.... I read online some couples work with each other on Vows. If you mean for them to flow with one another without the contrived feeling. Then, there's the way we've been doing it with her and I working on this solo. I'll tell you straight up it's a tough job to handle. I don't think it's nearly as tough as figuring out a honey moon. Which by the way is a hurdle upon itself. However, I'll say for the most part Vows have given me a kick in the ass. At one point I thought getting another woman's point of view on what I've jotted down would be a straight to the source idea. Then I realized, Draft one was too Narrative. Then Draft two rolled around and it's like reading 'Green Eggs and Ham' by Dr. Seuss. Third time through and I'm feeling closer to a better flow than before. Which is a nice change for once.
One thing I'd like to get across this post here is the fact writing Vows is not, repeat NOT, an easy task. It's a lot to consider especially when your future family in-laws are the audience. But after a few drafts it'll come to you. Google is a great resource to read blogs like mine but with "examples" of do's and don'ts. I'd be more than glad to post a few lines but Lauren is a reader. >_< Can't spill all the beans.
Then I realized the next bit would be what I'm Vowing to my future bride. Then I'm thinking, again, before pen meets pad... What has everyone vowed their bride? Always being there wall to lean on. Always bring home the bacon (We're vegetarians so Eggplant is probably the best way to go). To be there through thick to thin? Or till death do us part? Hmm..... What is something that douche bag from "The Notebook" never said? Noah, you're the bane to my existence right now. Then I realized, three months ago to just say fuck it. Not like, "Fuck it" I don't care. "Fuck it" in the sense there's a standard which everyone has an objective point to feel what they thing a VOW should be. So, I replaced the word VOW with PROMISE.
Here's the part where I realized a Promise is a lot easier to make. Especially when they're things I know I can do. I know I can't set myself up for failure. Examples: A lot of guys tell me after 3 months, 6 months nearly a year later, 'Sean, she's changed.' I have to stop these guys sometimes and ask the question: "What did you do when you first started dating?" My favorite answer and best example I've had and use time and time again is, "I bought her flowers every time we had a month anniversary." My follow up is, "Do you do it still?" Then the guy tells me, "Well, after six months you'd think it would get old." WRONG!!!! It's become a habit to your relationship, good job! Point is, you made a promise to buy flowers every month and you conveniently fucked it away. Good job.
I'm sitting here thinking about VOWS or Promises I mean to keep for my marriage. I've thought of a few things and some of them are hilarious and yet thoughtful because I don't think anyone would get it unless they knew us. Convenient to us, Lauren and I only invited our family and friends. ^_^
I'd also like to say I have NO IDEA how long Lauren's Vows are. I figure 3 mins tops.... I read online some couples work with each other on Vows. If you mean for them to flow with one another without the contrived feeling. Then, there's the way we've been doing it with her and I working on this solo. I'll tell you straight up it's a tough job to handle. I don't think it's nearly as tough as figuring out a honey moon. Which by the way is a hurdle upon itself. However, I'll say for the most part Vows have given me a kick in the ass. At one point I thought getting another woman's point of view on what I've jotted down would be a straight to the source idea. Then I realized, Draft one was too Narrative. Then Draft two rolled around and it's like reading 'Green Eggs and Ham' by Dr. Seuss. Third time through and I'm feeling closer to a better flow than before. Which is a nice change for once.
One thing I'd like to get across this post here is the fact writing Vows is not, repeat NOT, an easy task. It's a lot to consider especially when your future family in-laws are the audience. But after a few drafts it'll come to you. Google is a great resource to read blogs like mine but with "examples" of do's and don'ts. I'd be more than glad to post a few lines but Lauren is a reader. >_< Can't spill all the beans.
